After yesterday’s post about Dating and Friendship, my brother pointed me to Wait But Why’s posts on How to Pick Your Life Partner, or as I like to call it, “Everything you know about dating is wrong.” I love the “Figured It All Out Staircase” – it’s a great analogy, and it took me a long time to realize the truth of this.
In case it isn’t obvious, I agree with almost every point made in this article. The short version is that the way we approach romantic relationships is completely screwed up – at least by the norms we have in the Western World.
My only disagreement is with the urgency to find a life partner at all. It seems like a big part of the problem is that we rush into this without really thinking about it or knowing what we’re doing. By taking a step back and being comfortable with who we are to start with, most of the problems mentioned here would be resolved.
Of course, humans are loathe to do anything of the sort, but it’s a nice thought. As Douglas Adams said: “Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so.”